Who doesn’t want to be in a healthy relationship? The kind where you love your partner, and your partner loves you back. A relationship in which you share ideas, fears, troubles, and successes. But we can all agree that this is easier said than done. We are constantly fed ideas of romance and sex as the key components of a healthy relationship. And of course, most of us believe that being attractive and attracted to is a big part of the dating game. There’s some truth to that, but that’s just a part of the dating game. There are many more signs of a healthy relationship that have nothing to do with being attractive and attracted to someone.
Attraction will get you into bed with someone. But in order to turn that relationship into something more, and sustain it over time, you need more than just attraction. Today, I will highlight some of the signs of a healthy relationship that you need to look for.
You’re on the same page
Different people have different priorities and different goals in life. And that’s true in a relationship as well. In order for you to sustain a healthy relationship over time, you need to be on the same page in terms of life goals and basic values. What you want out of life? Do both of you want children? Do you want to pursue a career? And is your partner happy to support you in your pursuit of a career?
Strong sense of trust
When you talk about signs of a healthy relationship, trust is at the top of the list. There is no taboo topic in a healthy relationship, be it sex, money, or anything else. You have the good, the bad, and the ugly, and that’s that. Try not to hide secrets from your past. They will come to haunt you eventually.
You speak your mind
Speaking of trusting each other and being able to communicate, the next sign is being able to speak your mind. As we said, no topic is off limits, and you have to feel that you’re being heard. That applies to both you and your partner. If you can be heard, let your partner speak as well. Try to communicate as often and as openly as possible.
You have your own space
Just because you’re together, be it in a relationship or a marriage, it doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. And that you have to spend every moment together. Both partners in the relationship need space. You certainly don’t have everything in common, which means you need your own space for your own interests and friendships, as does your partner. This allows both of you to grow as individuals, all while growing as a couple.
You spend quality time together
Just as important as space is to the relationship, doing things together is equally important. Striking the perfect balance between being together as a couple and being alone as an individual is the biggest challenge. That being said, if you can find common things that you can do together, you have one more of the signs of a healthy relationship.
You encourage each other
When you’re with someone you truly love, you want to be a better person for that person. You want to be the best version of yourself. And that means encouraging each other to grow and change. All of us have issues and problems. We are certainly not perfect. But when you inspire each other to be a better person, you’re on the right track.
It’s only logical that you disagree about certain things. When you’re not fighting, you’re holding back. Now, that’s not to say that you should constantly fight. But every now and then, a productive and fair fight is more than welcome. Just remember, when you fight, avoid name calling and put-downs. The goal here is to understand your partner, not to score points or “win the fight.”
You respect differences
Speaking of fighting, it’s important that you respect each other’s differences. You can disagree on important issues as long as you turn those differences into a fair compromise. Both parties need to give something to gain something.
You make joint decisions
In every relationship, there is one person who leads, and one who follows. But that doesn’t mean that when it comes to important decisions, you make them on your own. It’s only natural that one of you is more of a leader, but you can’t call all the shots. Things like how many children you want to have and similar concerns and desires are subject to a “team meeting.” That means you and your partner sit down, discuss, and make a joint decision.
Let’s be honest for a moment. We all want to live in a palace. Or in the woods in a big mansion. Or have a beach house. But you have to share realistic expectations for the relationship. You can fantasize and wish for something, but in the end, you’re dating an extraordinary individual just like yourself. And there are some realistic expectations you need to set, not just in terms where you will live.
You both contribute
Both parties have to give their best in order for the relationship to succeed. One of the signs of a healthy relationship is when both you and your partner contribute your fair share to the relationship. That can be anything. Both of you have strengths and abilities that you can use for the “benefit of the team.”
You find joy
It’s all about having fun and being in a relationship full of laughter. Of course, you can drive your partner up the wall sometimes. And he might get on your nerves. But if you can’t find joy in the relationship, then it’s all for nothing. Happiness is in the simple things, like making dinner and laughing at the same things.
You find balance in trade-offs
Look, no matter how much you say “there are no trade-offs in a relationship,” there are. The trick is that you don’t emphasize them and constantly say “I did this back then” to your partner. Sometimes you have to work longer hours. Sometimes you have to devote your time to something else. And that’s life. Someone else has to take over the wheel and finish the tasks. In the long run, what matters is that the trade-offs seem fair.
You honor each other’s family and friends
I know you feel that you and your partner are more than enough. But in reality, there are other factors that contribute to the success of the relationship. Family and friends fall in that category. One of the signs of a healthy relationship is that you honor and respect your partner’s family and friends. You don’t have to love them, but you have to respect them. But it’s also important to maintain healthy boundaries. You don’t want them messing with your relationship.
You’re intimate and adventurous
Sex is a very important part of the relationship. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not. Now, the thing is that sex is only one part, and it’s different than intimacy. Being intimate is much more about emotions, not just about the physical aspect of sex. And, of course, being adventurous every now and then is good and healthy for your relationship. There’s nothing bad about that!
Last but not least
Remember these words: support, empathy, kindness, encouragement, and caring for each other. They are the most important signs of a healthy relationship. There is no room for jealousy, insults, criticizing, rudeness, and judging in your relationship. When you decide to join your life with another individual, you’re embarking on a journey together. You’re two individuals who co-captain the ship. You don’t give up who you are, and neither does your partner.