We’ve all been in this situation. You’ve met a guy you like, but you don’t know how to get him to like you back. Some will say that love is something that happens in an instant, he either loves you, or not. But that is total BS, as you can always make a guy like you. So, if the question in your mind is how to get a guy to like you, I will share with you some secrets that will make you a person of interest.
Keep your thoughts clear and on point
First of all, guys love to understand what you are telling. I know for sure we girls love to complicate things, but if you want to get a guy to like you, you need to speak a language he can understand. You don’t need to dumb it down, but don’t complicate every single thing. Playing head games is good, as long as it moderate. Nobody wants to feel like he is an episode of Oprah every time he is out with you. If you are too much trouble, chances are, the guy will go running out.
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Be real, Be yourself
This is one advice you cannot ignore. Ladies love to present themselves as something they are not. There is no need for that. If he likes you, he will like you for the real you. If he doesn’t, well, you are better off without him. It is a struggle to try and pretend you are something/someone else all the time. And eventually, he will figure it out. So, instead of trying to be fake, be real and be yourself. You don’t need someone who is attracted to a phony and fake girl.
Let your hair down
Guys love women who are not afraid to get a bit dirty. Guys love sophisticated and elegant women, that is for sure, but every now and then, you should be able to get dirty. Don’t be afraid to go hiking and ruin your T-shirt. And make sure you wear one when you are out hiking. A tube top is not something you wear while hiking. And most importantly, lipstick is something you don’t want for your outdoor activities. Lip gloss is fine, but lipstick is not.
Use your brain
Celebrity gossip is fun and interesting, but if you want to get a good guy to like you, you need more than that. I am not saying you should be a rocket scientist or an engineer, but I am sure you have something of value to say. Everyone has, you just have to find what is that you are good at. If there is a field you are good at, and you have knowledge, show it. Just remember, be yourself, do not pretend you like sports if you don’t. You can accompany your guy there, but don’t act like you know every single championship team and player.
Listen to him
One of our biggest complaints as ladies is that guys do not listen to us. They hear, but they do not listen. This goes the other way as well. I don’t want to use stereotypes, but don’t “be a guy and nod all the time”. I mentioned before, you need to have a meaningful conversation with your guy in order for him to like you. And for a meaningful conversation, listening is part of the equation. You need to listen carefully, and respond accordingly.
Invite him for an interesting hobby
I have yet to meet a person, be it a woman or a man that has no hobby. We all have ones. Sometimes, your hobbies will match, sometimes they might not. But the important thing is that you invite the guy you like to a hobby you like. You want him to see how passionate you are about your hobby. You also present yourself as dynamic, interesting and unique person. He might not have similar interest with you, but he will tag along for the ride. And if you have similar interests, even better.
Be Aggressive, show initiation
Guys love to be hunters, but not all the time. This cat and mouse game you might be playing is fun at the beginning, but if you play it for way too long, you’ll lose. I am not saying you need to be the one making the first move, but it doesn’t hurt. Show initiation, be aggressive, invite him to a dinner or something like that. An assertive lady is extremely sexy, so grow a pair. And at the end of the day, it is better to make the first move than wait for him to notice you.
I would also like to note that you shouldn’t let him make all the decisions. I understand you agree sometimes with him, but don’t do it blindly. You need to have personality, and that includes using your brain and showing assertiveness. Even if your opinion is different, tell him.
Let him talk
I said previously that you need to listen to your guy. And in order for you to listen, that means he needs to talk. So let him talk, and try to steer the conversation into something he likes, something he is into. You’ll notice how passionate he is about a certain subject, and he will associate those vibes with you.
Make sure to look good
We all know men are visual creatures. No matter if they say they haven’t noticed your new haircut, they notice every single detail. So, make sure you look good, and that means looking and feeling your best. You need to be confident in your clothes. Confidence is sexy, and you need to look “presentable”. This means clean clothes, clean hair, clean face and all of that. And most importantly, my secret is perfume, but not on your body. Spritz some perfume into your hair, and your guy will notice.
Show your talents
I talked about hobbies previously, but talents are another subject. Are you good a good writer? Or are you are a good singer? Don’t just tell your guy. Show him. For example, if you are a good writer, let him read something you’ve written. Or write something for him, even better. Bragging is boring, showing your talents is what will make you stand out.
Try to befriend his friends
Let me get something straight: you don’t have to be friends with all of his friends. After all, they are his friends. But you need an approval from his friends, and to do that, you need to befriend them. Just don’t be too aggressive and showy. Impressing his friends will impress your guy. Just be careful not to give an impression you want to date his friends.
Men love a good competition, and they love to compete. For men, there is nothing more challenging than a girl telling them she can beat them. So, challenge your guy to something you like. For example, bowling is a great bonding activity. You might lose, you might win. At the end of the day, you’ll have a nice time and story to tell. Spending time together and bonding is the get for how to get a guy to like you.
Get touchy and compliment him
As much as you like the guy you like to compliment your necklace, earrings, dress or something else, he wants to receive a compliment as well. This is a give and take relationship. Make sure to compliment him when he looks good. And get touchy, but subtle. Men love subtle touches, for example, a gentle touch on his shoulder when he says something funny or interesting. Any time you can touch him in a subtle way, do it.
Flirt, flirt and then flirt some more
At the end of the day, you need to flirt. You don’t want to come as too easy, but you don’t want to come out as too hard as well. You need to keep a perfect balance of “being slightly out of reach”. To get there, act flirty, but don’t lock it down. Your goal is to let him know you are interested, but he a long way to go and get some work done.